Tips for living in two households

Keep track of the time you'll be spending at each house in a diary or calendar, or download your diary.
Make a list of all the things you need to have at home so you can make sure you have these at both houses.
Ask your parents if you can get two of the things you need each day like a toothbrush, hairbrush, or even some clothes so you don’t have to carry so much with you each time.
Ask your parents to make some space in each house where you can keep your gear. If you cannot have a room to yourself, suggest putting up a divider for some privacy.
If one parent makes you feel guilty when you spend time with the other parent, talk to them about it. You have the right to see both your parents, and your parents might change their behaviour if you let them know how important this is to you.
Sometimes parents separate because of violence or abuse. Generally, in this type of situation, you are not expected to live in two households, particularly if you don’t feel safe staying alone with someone else around at all times. To find out more call the Kids Help Line on 1800 551 800, visit www.kidshelp.com.au, call the Family Relationships Advice Line on 1800 050 321, or visit www.familyrelationships.gov.au

Tips for coping with change

Give yourself time to get used to the changes after your parents separate.
Try to keep as many things in your world as normal as possible – like your own daily and weekly routines.
Make an effort to keep seeing your friends and family.
Stay involved in activities you enjoy, like sport or music.

Keep track of the time you'll be spending at each house in a dairy or calendar.